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What I read in 2019 (a booklist for highly sensitive, graphic-violence-and-casual-sex-averse recovering intellectuals who read to unwind but also learn and tend to get obsessively into one author at a time)

January 24, 2020

How’s that for a title? Descriptive, right?

I’ve been putting this off and putting this off and putting this off because writing book lists is, like parenting a newborn, exhausting, and by nightfall all I want to do is fall into bed with a book. Sometimes I’m so tired I don’t even want to read, which is truly a shocking state to find myself in.

But I am determined to get this list down on virtual paper, not least of all because it’s delightful to me to be able to consult past year’s lists, and also because I appreciate good book recommendations for high maintenance persons like myself who are frequently disappointed by currently trending titles. I loathe abandoning books mid-read, but I have zero qualms doing so when inevitably the sex scenes turn graphic. Modern fiction is a real drag for the most part, because for an HSP it’s almost a no-fly zone.

So if you’re like me and you don’t want to read about the darker side of life, step right up to this list of what I read (and enjoyed) in 2019.

(Note: I read almost exclusively on a Kindle Paperwhite and using our library’s ebook borrowing system. This way I always have a book with me and spend very little money or time acquiring said books. The only bummer is when I’m really desperate for a new title or the next book in a series and the waitlist is bumping.)

Dopesick, Beth Macy (on the opiod crisis, definitely recommend. Apart from In Sinu Jesu, probably the most important book I read in 2019)

Health at Every Size, Linda Bacon (a really important book that is foundational to the body acceptance movement, though the author has gone of the deep end in recent years)

The F*ck It Diet, Caroline Dooner (it’s rude, she’s crude, she’s got a sort of bad attitude…but this book is still worth the read. Much dismantling of diet culture. Very freedom.)

61 Minutes to a Miracle, Bonnie Engstrom (It makes me so happy to type my friend’s names in my book lists)

Live Big, Love Bigger, Kathryn Whitaker (ditto)

How to Break Up With Your Phone, Katherine Price (Hasn’t quite worked out yet, need to revisit asap)

Intuitive Eating, Evelyn Tribole (currently re reading this for the third time this year so…highly recommend)

The High Season, Judy Blundall (don’t remember a thing but I rated it 3.5 stars so it mustn’t have been great)

Atomic Habits, James Clear (I really should revisit this one)

The War of Art, Stephen Pressfield (meh)

The Minimalist Home, Joshua Becker (huge fan of his blog, Becoming Minimalist, and this was a mix of recycled content plus some new stuff)

Alone Time: 4 Seasons, 4 Cities, and the Pleasures of Solitude, Stephanie Rosenbloom

The Obesity Code, Jason Fungoes (Was super into this when I read it, then realized intermittent fasting is sort just an eating disorder by another name, at least for me)

Bringing Up Bebe, Pamela Drucker (a re read to remind myself how far behind I’m falling from every parenting like a French mother. Working on “the pause” with the resident youngling now…)

The Year of Less, Cait Flanders (another re-read for me, warms my minimalist heart even though she and I are as different as can be)

The Summer Wives, Beatriz Williams (I think I had to stop reading this one halfway through because it was too slutty? I could be remembering one of the dozen other modern fiction situations that fit that description in this year of reading though…)

The Great Alone, Kristin Hannah (This is about as gritty as I can handle, but a beautifully haunting book. Domestic violence and some sex.)

Cozy Minimalist Home, Myquillen Smith (Nester 4ever, loved her first book, the Nesting Place, and loved this one too)

12 Rules for Life: an Antidote to Chaos, Jordan Peterson (GET ON THIS BANDWAGON. 5 stars. So good.)

Get Out Now, Mary Rice Hasson (A product of public school myself, I was already acquainted with much of her research and anecdotal findings. A decent read if you truly don’t know much about prevailing modern public school culture.)

The Wall, John Lanchester (I forgot about this book! It was … weird. But entertaining.)

No-Drama Discipline, Daniel J Siegel (Zero recollection and our house is full of drama between 4 and 5 pm every day so I guess it didn’t do the trick?)

A Plain and Simple Heart, Lori Copeland (Is this a safe place to say I inadvertently read an Amish romance novel and … liked it?)

The Lost Art of Feeding Kids, Jeannie Marshall (A fascinating look at why European children eat so differently from American kids.)

Love the Home You Have, Melissa Michaels

Choose, Ryan Levesque

Digital Minimalism, Cal Newport (An absolute must read, along with his previous title “Dhttps://amzn.to/2GjAYaKeep Work”)

My 25 Years in Provence, Peter Mayle (Tell me you’ve read “A Year in Provence,” and the 2 subsequent titles by Mayle? The original moving abroad/food/renovation memoir slash biography, his books are an absolute treasure, especially during the slog of winter)

The Girl Who Fell from the Sky, Heidi Durrow (vv depressing if I recall, but in a sort of haunting, beautiful way)

See You in the Piazza: New Places to Discover in Italy, Frances Mayes (of Under the Tuscan Sun fame)

Daughter of Moloka’i, Alan Brennart (Loved this one, the sequel to his first title, Moloka’i, which is also absolutely lovely)

The Right Side of History: How Reason and Moral Purpose Made the West Great, Ben Shapiro (a good read, a little dense at times and I tried to read it on vacation and while first trimester pregnant so…I struggled. It did fill in a lot of historical gaps and political context for me though.)

Where the Crawdads Sing, Delia Owens (I know I know, everyone read this book. I waited months out of annoyance for how many times I saw it mentioned, but it really was a great read)

Uglies, Scott Westerfield (Okay, I went into a pretty intense dystopian fiction kick after this one and subsequently devoured …

Pretties, Scott Westerfield

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Specials, Scott Westerfield (the first title was the best and it got pretty weird by the end, but still a fun trilogy overall)

Magic Hour, Kristin Hannah (a little depressing at times but a good, engaging story)

State of Fear, Michael Crichton (Oh man I looooooved this book. And then I went on a serious author binge that lasted most of the summer)

Wild Swans, Jung Chang (THIS IS A MUST READ. Super intense, long, complex, and sad and triumphant in parts. A fascinating true story at the rise and transformation of Communist China as related by a defected Chinese national told through the lens of 3 generations of women)

Next, Michael Crichton (biomedical genetic thriller, is that a genre?)

The Knockoff, Lucy Sykes (4 stars but I don’t remember a thing so it must have been easy breezy)

Airframe, Michael Crichton (weirdly engaging considering the plot was driven by airplane design and manufacturing. Man, could that guy tell a story. RIP.)

The Pillars of the Earth, Ken Follet (this was super engaging but too graphic both in the sex + violence department on top of being abysmally historically inaccurate, as my astute Canadian literary coach assured me. Can’t recommend in good conscience, but did learn some fascinating stuff about architecture.)

The Printed Letter Bookshop, Katherine Reay (this was fine…cutesy…good enough for distracted beach read. Nothing to write home about; I preferred her previous title, Lizzie and Jane, an Austen-esque redux.)

Sphere, Michael Crichton (had a psychological thriller vibe and totally wasn’t what I expected the story to be about. If you’re claustrophobic, this will probably drive you nuts)

Storyworthy, Matthew Dicks (read this for book club and just found the author enormously, distractingly self referential. Some nuggets of wisdom, but overall I doubt I’d have read it if it wasn’t “assigned”)

Brideshead Revisited, Evelyn Waugh (Another book club read…and oh man, how did I get into my mid 30s without having read this one? It was phenomenal, and I’ll definitely be rereading it at some point this year)

The Blood of The Lamb, Peter DeVries (And another book club pick…this one was my choice for the group. Haunting, beautifully written, heavy with grief and human brokenness, and let’s just say the topic wasn’t what I’d intended to foist upon a group of parents with young children.)

The Benedict Option, Rod Dreher (I like it more each time I read it, and I get more out of it, too. This book is one you have to read for yourself rather than letting someone dictate their interpretation of it to you, trust me)

John Paul the Great: Remembering a Spiritual Father, Peggy Noonan (true story, I was on a work trip to EWTN headquarters, was locked out of the wifi network, and picked this up off the bookshelf of the guest house I was staying in because I had nothing else to distract me at night. I loved reading this so much, it was a shot straight to the heart)

Building the Benedict Option, Leah Libresco (I really enjoy Libresco’s writing and she is scary smart, but this book wasn’t very engaging for me. I think a younger me without community and without a solid parish situation would have loved it, though.

In Sinu Jesu, an anonymous Benedictine monk (this was THE book of 2019. Life changing, earth-shaking, re-reading and referencing it even as recently as this month. Get a copy. Get a priest you know or love a copy. Get a copy and send it to your bishop. A thunderclap for the spiritual life.)

Life Giving Love, Kimberly Hahn (Re-reading this one for Off the Charts and finding that there is so much wealth and depth there now that I’m married and … holy crap, have AS MANY KIDS AS KIMBERLY HAHN. #shook. I read it for the first time as an idealistic theology grad student and found it well worth the revisit with a little life under my belt. There really isn’t anything else out there like this book – I loaned my copy to a religious community of priests who we’re close with, and they read it during community mealtime and said it was tremendously insightful for them as men who would never experience married life and the struggles therein firsthand.)

Eaters of the Dead, Michael Crichton (told you I could be author-centric once I find someone I like. This was a particularly weird – but not entirely unwelcome – departure from his typical novel form and if you’re even remotely into Vikings, I think you’ll like it? Violence and some brief sex scenes.)

Terminal Man, Michael Crichton (this one was bizarre and suddenly in the year 2020 doesn’t seem nearly so far-fetched as it must have been when it was written in the 90’s…_)Case of Need, Michael Crichton (a medical thriller, quick and bingeable stuff)

Congo, Michael Crichton (I liked this one, but didn’t love it, which was disappointing because I was kind of saving it to read as one of his most well-known titles besides Jurassic Park.)

Prey, Michael Crichton (are you weirded out by my author-perseverance yet? This one was really spooky and really stayed with me; a thought provoking exploration of new technology and the blurry morality around biotech and medical investing)

The Andromeda Strain, Michael Crichton (a good old fashioned science fiction/military coverup story. Loved it.)

The Birth Partner, Penny Simpkin (okay friends, here’s where we get into the weeks 28-37 of pregnancy where it’s the beginning of the end but you still have literal months to go so…you go a little nuts reading (or rereading, in this case) everything you’ve ever read about birth. Brace yourselves)

The Epidural Book, Richard Siegenfeld (this on tended towards a particularly obnoxious blend of being simultaneously mansplained and medsplained in parts, though I did find it interesting to read exactly how pain meds work, and what parts of the body they work on)

Your Pregnancy after 35, Glade B Curtis (I’ve said too much)

A Canticle for Leibowitz, Walter M Miller Jr (OH MY GOSH I FORGOT ABOUT THIS BOOK, I LOVED THIS BOOK. Hands down my favorite read of 2019. The very inaugural pick for of our couple’s book club. “post apocalyptic science fiction” = my genre. Loved. 5 stars.)

Natural Hospital Birth, Cynthia Gabriel (can anyone guess what I was contemplating during the final months of Ben’s pregnancy?)

Hail, Holy Queen, Scott Hahn (re read of an oldie but a goodie)

The Mindful Catholic, Dr. Greg Bottoro (I’ve know Dr. Greg since he was brother Greg, CFR – Fr. Benedict Groeschl was his mentor – and the work he is doing infusing mindfulness with traditional Catholic spirituality and sound psychology is vitally important)

Burnout, the Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski (this one had a LOT of good food for thought and made a really great case for why women suffer particularly from unexpressed stress, but if I had to read the line (or some iteration thereof) “BECAUSE THE PATRIARCHY” one more time, I think I may have barfed. So, grain of salt and all?)

The Hypnobirthing Book, Katharine Graves (let’s just say this birth…did not go as planned. But I’m sure I was calmer for all the reading and positive visualization and healing of past traumas I did beforehand. I will say, once the I read that creator of hypnobirthing came up with it after giving birth and never actually used it herself in labor, I was a little bit skeptical of its advertised claims.)

Leonie Martin: A Difficult Life, Marie Bauudouin-Croix (about the misfit and mentally ill sister to St. Therese and daughter to Sts. Louis and Zelie Martin, an absolutely beautiful, hopeful, redemptive story that every parent could benefit from reading. This was our girl name for Benedict, and I reserve the right to someday recover from his birth, get pregnant again, have a daughter, and use it.)

*update: the diocesan phase of her cause for canonization was officially closed today meaning the ball’s in the Vatican’s court. Woohoo!

Childbirth Without Fear, Grantly Dick-Read

Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth, Ina May Gaskin (guys, I know, I know, I’m a 6th time mom…I just get… fixated. Another re-read.)

Arabella, Georgette Heyer (at this point in the year, a friend introduced me to Georgette Heyer and all I can say is, enchanted, most enchanted. You’ll see what happened next…) ps this is my favorite title of hers. Unless it’s Regency Buck. Or the Grand Sophy. Or Sylvester. DAMMIT I JUST LOVE THEM ALL.

Ornamental Graces, Carolyn Astfalk (a feel good clean romance by a Catholic novelist which touches on themes of forgiveness, redemption, suffering, mental health issues, and chastity. I really like her books)

All in Good Time, Carolyn Astfalk (see above, but this one deals directly with pornography in a way I haven’t seen other contemporary writers – or really any writers – do. Highly recommend)

Rightfully Ours, Carolyn Astfalk (a nostalgic story that took me back to my first experiences of love in a sweet way. Also the last title of hers I’ve read, hope you’ve got more coming, Carolyn)

The Convenient Marriage, Georgette Heyer (literally I’ve loved every book I’ve read from her so far, just keep on scrolling and you’ll see)

The Grand Sophy, Georgette Heyer (loved)

Frederica, Georgette Heyer (LOVED)

Cotillion, Georgette Heyer (liked)

The Quiet Gentleman, Georgette Heyer (loved)

Devil’s Cub, Georgette Heyer (really loved)

April Lady, Georgette Heyer (loved)

Venetia, Georgette Heyer (did I mention I don’t watch much tv? Liked.)

Black Sheep, Georgette Heyer (loved)

Regency Buck, Georgette Heyer (ALL CAPS LOVED. I really think this may have been her best work: witty, sparkly character development, hilarious, and one liners zingy enough to make Maggies Smith jealous. Please, please tell me you’ll read at least one of the bajillion Georgette Heyer novels on this list.)

A Civil Contract, Georgette Heyer (liked)

The Noel Diary, Richard Paul Evans (unspeakably corny but it was Hallmark movie season, what can I say)

The Explosive Child, Ross Green (a little light bedtime reading to break up the regency romance trend. Right.)

Bath Tangle, Georgette Heyer (loved)

The Reluctant Widow, Georgette Heyer (liked)

The Christmas Sisters, Sarah Morgan (dumb and slutty in parts, but set in Scotland at Christmas, so forgiven and resolutely skipped over in parts)

Lady of Quality, Georgette Heyer (liked)

The Corinthian, Georgette Heyer (I can quit any time, I swear)

The Unknown Ajax, Georgette Heyer (class snobbery, proletarian uprising, plus a little romance. All the good Brit stuff)

The Talisman Ring, Georgette Heyer (liked. And this one had a sort of murder mystery vibe)

The Mistletoe Matchmaker, Jennifer Chiaverini (okay, but forgiven for mediocrity by being set in Ireland at Christmastime)

Sylvester, Georgette Heyer (OKAY THIS ONE IS THE WINNER!)

Charity Girl, Georgette Heyer (loved)

The Anti Mary Exposed, Dr. Carrie Gress (MUST READ. life changing stuff here. She’s also one of the brilliant minds behind Theology of Home)

Baby and Beyond: Overcoming those post childbirth woes, Allison Auth (written by a friend, this is the first book I’ve read that specifically addresses the postpartum time and so many of the accompanying issues and experiences therein, and from a Catholic perspective. I wrote the forward for it.)

Whew…that was exhausting. How do I read so much, you’re wondering? Well it helps that I was a. largely (lol) sedentary much of this past year and b. don’t have any other hobbies and c. don’t watch tv. Not because I’m morally superior, just because I don’t have much of an attention span for it. Same with movies. I watched The Crown and a few football games and 2 episodes of the Mandalorian this year but I can’t remember watching much of anything else. Also, I don’t really listen to podcasts or do anything – literally anything – apart from reading when it comes to pockets of available leisure time in my days. Also I suspect I may be a bit of a speed reader.

Hope you find yourself something to curl up with!

What I read in 2018.

What I read int 2017.

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Coffee clicks: What the Friday?

February 9, 2019

This week was one for the record books in terms of watching news come across the wires and wondering not once, not twice, but, well…a lot more times than that if we are, in fact, all still living in reality.

The Virginia governor who suggested keeping resuscitated hypothetical newborns comfortable until “doctors and parents” decide whether or not to….what, kill it? Literally we’re discussing after birth abortion now. Aka murder.But massage that language enough and you’ll get fascinating mind benders like “post-birth abortion” and “4th trimester abortion” and “newborn fetus.” Anyway, seems like he was a great guy in high school, too.

But wait, that’s not all! During President Trump’s SOTU address he made a few impassioned pleas for unity around the idea of not killing babies who accidentally survive abortions. Unsurprisingly, by this point in the week, these were not pleas that enjoyed bipartisan support.

But you know, it’s not all bad news. This episode of CNA Newsroom was one of the more beautiful things I’ve listened to in a long time. The comment towards the end of the second segment where the mother speaks about “emotional closure” is a profoundly edifying concept to meditate on, particularly in light of our culture’s desperate, clawing fear of suffering. We’ll do anything to avoid it, crush whatever innocent thing stands in our way, and yet the true path to serenity and long term emotional wellbeing is often found cutting directly down the middle of that suffering.

This is the real poverty of nihilism and atheism: To be alone, to be made to suffer alone and without meaning. For this reason I can think of almost nothing more devastating than abortion, separating mother from child, severing a most fundamental human relationship, and leaving a child to suffer terribly, and alone. Abortion is never the answer. Yes, even when it’s “medically necessary.”

Ashley’s ode to her oldest on his 9th birthday had me thinking how crazy fast things are starting to go. Especially as I did the math and realized I’m half a year away from having my own 9 year old. That’s wild to me. I must be getting older, because those “blink and you’ll miss it” statements used to make my eyes roll. Now they make them water:

“With a blink, it will be gone and ghosts of Lego messes and dance parties past will haunt me with such longing—uncaring that I spent every waking moment with them. It won’t ever be enough..”

Should Catholic politicians who publicly endorse – even clamor for – abortion be excommunicated? Perhaps. But I think it’s unlikely to happen, and even less likely to accomplish anything meaningful in the life of the excommunicated, as per the intention of the censure. Better to withhold and restrict reception of the Holy Eucharist which is the public affirmation we make as Catholics that we are united in practice and in belief with the Catholic Church and all that She professes.

Possible alternate headline: “Millennial takes socialism to its (il)logical conclusion”.

Tearing through this book, “Cozy Minimalist Home” – Myquillen Smith’s follow up to her runaway bestseller “The Nesting Place” – and guys, I AM HERE FOR IT. I rearranged my entire main floor this morning and it looks like I spent a grand at Home Goods. (Husband: I did not. I spent nothing.)

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p.s. My entire “what I read in 2018” book list is here if you’ve got a case of the Februarys.

Have a great weekend wherever you are!

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Want to become an awesome reader? Do these 5 things

January 28, 2019

I received a flurry of comments, emails, and DMs after the year-end book list I published in late December. There were plenty of thanks for the recommendations, but there were even more incredulous queries along the lines of how do you read that much? and Do your kids bathe, feed, and clothe themselves? And I haven’t finished a book since college!

Which I totally and completely understand. Reading for pleasure can seem like a tough row to hoe some seasons, especially when career demands are intense and babies are small and plentiful.

I really subscribe to the idea that reading, like any other skill or hobby, is something that waxes and wanes during different seasons in life. I don’t swim much in the winter when it gets dark at 5 pm and my kids have schoolwork, whining, and endless snacking to accomplish before bedtime. When the summer sun rides high until 8pm I can easily slip out to the gym once Dave gets home. Winter nights though, I’m more likely to be dreaming about slipping into bed myself by that point in the evening.

When the kids were younger and my sleep was more disrupted, I definitely did not read as much as I do now. Nursing required at least one hand, sometimes two, and I didn’t have an e-reader yet. It was much easier to prop open a laptop and stream some mindless content or better yet, alternate between staring dreamily into my baby’s eyes or vacantly into space. During my later babies’ early days with smartphones on the scene, I had to make an intentional choice to leave that phone somewhere else sometimes.

Now that everybody is sleeping through the night and still young enough to be abed by 9pm  – ahem, most nights. To hell with this Oregon Trail winter we’re having; thank God nobody is dying in a covered wagon. Instead they’re sucking down steroids in a house with a roof – I usually have at least an hour or two of open time in the evenings. Provided I’ve prayed already, packed the lunches, sent the emails, etc., I almost always choose to spend this time reading. And 10-14 hours of reading a week can add up to some big numbers over the span of a year.

Here are a few things I do in order to maximize my consumption of the written word:

1. Make your smartphone smarter: I know, I know…but my ongoing effort to break up with my smartphone is mired in the annoying reality of life in 2019. Do I need a smartphone to survive? Of course not. But life without one – like the summer before last – is more difficult than it needs to be. Our school communicates via a private email system, my office communicates via a chat app, my sense of direction functions via Google maps…anyway, I still have a phone that is smart. So I’ve hacked it a bit to make it smarter for me. I’ve done this by: removing all social media from my phone, decluttering the front screen to the bare minimum, hiding all communication apps (Voxer, Whatsapp, GroupMe, etc) in a separate folder on the last page, no work email, and refusing to download an app for anything unless it can’t be done in a browser (looking at you Whole Foods/Amazon discount).

When my phone is less interesting and less capable of distracting me, I am more likely to pick up whatever I happen to be reading in those lulls of activity during the day, be it in car line or standing at the counter stirring dinner and sipping a glass of wine.

The one thing I’ll probably do again this summer when my kids are home is delete my internet browser which makes the phone even stupider (and harder to use for mindless scrolling) but which is too tough to manage during the school year. I’ve done this every year for 3 summers now and it’s been really great for keeping me more engaged with my family, at least once I get through the horrifying lack-of-immediate-Google-ability detox of the first week. Shudder. My brain is melting.

Without the tempting glow of a tiny screen beckoning you to disappear for a little scrolling, you are now ready to:

2. Get an e-reader. I’ve been a loyal Kindle reader for about 7 years now, I think. It was an actual lifeline when we lived in Rome in 2013, still tethered to my library in the States and able to provide me with instantaneous digital content in my native tongue. I like Kindle because we already use Amazon for so much (thus hastening the decline of civilization as we know it) and because almost every book is available in Kindle format. It also has cross pollination with other Kindles in your family and other devices, so you can share titles with your spouse or kids and if you do find yourself in a pinch when you’re out and about but left your Kindle at home, you can download the Kindle app to your phone and pick up wherever you left off in your book. But don’t do this unless it’s an emergency, because reading on a phone is terrible for you.

I like the Kindle Paperwhite because of its eyeball-friendly display and its husband-friendly backlighting which makes it perfect for snuggling with under the covers without disturbing your bed partner’s sleep. It vaguely thrills me in the same way hiding with a flashlight and a paperback used to do at age 10.

An e-reader is also the ultimate budget-friendly way to read; other than the original cost of purchase, you can basically read everything you could ever want for free, minus your annual Amazon membership. I’m not sure how other e-readers stack up price-wise, but like I said, Jeff Bezos helps the wheels of our domestic economy turn, so we’re already paying for it. Also, don’t pay a crazy amount for one! I think Dave and I got both ours on Prime day or black Friday a few years ago for less than $60 apiece.

But don’t you spend money on books, Jenny? 90-something titles is a lot!

Au contraire, my friends. I spent possibly $50 on books this past year. Possibly. If there is an obscure title that pops up for book club unavailable in digital format, a title I just have to have in hardcover the moment it comes out (cough cough Michael O’Brien), or a friend publishing a new title, I’ll buy it. Otherwise? I’ll…

3. Use the library like a boss. Our library system is amazing. We have convenient locations, attractive and updated (if not beautiful) new buildings, and massive collections of titles. But I almost never check out books irl. If we go to the library, it’s either 100 degrees outside and the kids are home or I’m meeting a girlfriend for a government-sponsored playdate. I don’t go there to check out books, period.

I mean fine, sometimes I let the kids each grab a stack. Which I then spend the next several weeks repenting, finding titles sodden in the backyard, shredded in the baby’s mouth, stuffed under car seats and behind couches, etc. That is when we find all the titles. Books, like puzzles, live at the library for our family. At least for now.

But digital books? Oh, my friends, digital books are what I use to placate myself if ever I think too long and about bloated, wasteful government expenditure of my tax dollars. Digital books are my smug little secret, new release titles by the dozens filling up my hold request que, recommendations from friends or some erie algorithm hastily copy and pasted, waiting their turn in a notes app I continually update. Some months I might be reading $150 worth of brand spanking new releases, all without opening my wallet.

Some library districts might not be so generous or so response to digital title recommendations – almost every book I’ve ever suggested my library acquire, they have, save for a handful of older or explicitly Catholic titles – but did you know there are some library districts that grant non-resident library cards? Mind blown.

Of course, you don’t have to be an e-book apologist like me to work the library system. Turning your to-be-read wishlist into a physical hold request is almost as easy, if a little less convenient. If you don’t mind picking up and returning books irl, this is the option for you. Bonus: less time wandering the stacks and rolling the dice on a title that ends up being a dud, or trashy. Downside: less time wandering the stacks. And less likelihood of you picking up a title you might otherwise never lay eyes on.

4. Be intentional with your leisure time. Don’t let downtime just “happen” to you. If you want to become an enthusiastic reader, you have to be at least a little bit intentional about it in 2019. There will always be something to stream, a newsfeed to scroll, screens to watch, and noise to attend to. Gone are the days where you might pick up a book out of boredom or lack of options. You have limitless options, and boredom can be banished with a simple keystroke. If you’re going to read, you have to make time to do it and resist the siren song of passive consumption of entertainment.

Getting your oil changed? There’ll be a show playing in the waiting room, and possibly music, too. And unless you brought your current read or your Kindle along for the ride, you’re going to find yourself spending 35 minutes of your life learning all about high stakes extreme crab fishing. Ask me how I know.

Similarly, at night, if you don’t set parameters around your screen time and your plan for how you’ll unwind once your duties for the day are done, it’s all too easy to find yourself hopping on instagram for “just a minute” only to look up an hour later, bleary eyed and hunchbacked at the kitchen counter. Don’t ask me how I know.

Decide you want to use your fringe hours to read, and then prepare to be shocked when you can easily cruise through a book a week. No, you’re not necessarily a genius, you just got 10 hours of your time back by refusing to cede the precious resource of your attention span to an algorithm designed to be irresistibly captivating. So actually, maybe you are a genius.

Try it even for a month and see what happens. Cal Newport (author of Deep Work) has a forthcoming title called Digital Minimalism that is all about having agency in this area of our lives, evaluating each new piece of technology and each practice and asking if it truly serves us, and if so, assigning it designated space in our lives. Down with passive consumption and automated upgrades. Up with the thoughtful, intentional application of new trends and technologies in our lives.

5. Find a reading buddy. It could be a whole book club full of many buddies. It could just be the other users on Goodreads whose titles and reviews you peruse when looking for new reads. It could be your long lost bff from college who you commit to rekindling the flame with. Try this: pick a title, both of you get the book, download Voxer or some other voice messaging app, and spend a month reading and virtually discussing your pick, no set meetings or irl encounters necessary.

Reading is really fun. And you can do it on a train, you do it in the rain…you get the idea. And unlike many other hobbies and pursuits that may find themselves sidelined during different seasons of life, it’s something you can pursue whether you’re 5 or 95, provided you have the right glasses, I guess. So while I may not be able to get out and run a 4 miler right now (I want to say because snow, but really it’s because mombod. #cantdoitall), once my kids are down for the count tonight, I’ll be happily indulging in the luxury of opening to the current location in a good book.

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The PG-rated book list you’ve been waiting for {what I read in 2018}

December 30, 2018

I started this post in November soooooo things are just swimming along for us as we round the bases to close out 2018. Here’s the recap: Christmas: we missed it. Bird flu, we have it. Norovirus: we had that, too. Lots of clorox wipes and bottles of ibuprofen under the Christmas tree, etc, etc.

Anyway, I’ve been reading a lot this year. Especially since cutting out social media browsing early in November, and more recently in between many middle of the night disruptions requiring new sheets and tylenol disbursements. I have more free time than I ever realized, though the discipline required to sit down with an in process book is a little more than what I’d grown accustomed to with scrolling.

Sometimes I’ll find myself putzing around the kitchen at 9:40 pm looking for something else to clean because I don’t quite feel like crawling into bed with a book, I’m too wired/tired to do my own writing, and I’ve removed that third option of the slump n’ scroll from the evening menu.

Jenny’s have-read list of 2018, in reverse chronological order: (p.s. these titles contain affiliate links from Amazon; if you order through a link, Jeff Bezos will give me a hay penny)

(I’ve kept the reviews uber concise and have also included, at the bottom, the unlucky titles I’ve abandoned for the time being because adulthood means not having to finish a book you start.)

The Obesity Code: 5 stars. Really great read, some fascinating stuff that backs up what I’ve experienced eating keto and dabbling in avoiding sugar.

Tell Me More: 3.5 stars. I really like her writing and this collection of essays was enjoyable, if somewhat depressing at times. Her life kind of reads heavy into “hot mess,” which, I mean, aren’t we all? But light on the redeeming qualities. Call me pollyanna, but I need some morally uplifting denouement in my written word. (I just found out there is literally a name for the kind of reading I gravitate towards: Up-lit. Nailed it.)

Delay, Don’t Deny: 3.5 stars. I’d like to give it more because it has some great information, but it’s so short and it’s written so casually that it didn’t feel worth the $9 purchase price. She extensively referenced Dr. Jason Fung, author of the Obesity Code, so if nothing else she pointed me to a great follow up read.

The Personality Brokers: 3.5 stars. Not the most pleasant reading, and investigative journalism just isn’t my favorite thing to curl up with. It’s definitely interesting and made me re examine a lot of the forgone cultural “truths” we embrace about sorting people, including ourselves, into different categories and types.

These is My Words: 5 stars. Riveting, a grown up version of Little House on the Prairie. I loved it.

Small Animals: Parenting in the Age of Fear 3.5 stars. Some good insights and interesting journalism but tiresomely cluttered by the author’s extreme liberal POV.

Waking Gods: Book 2 of the Themis Files 5 stars. LOVED this book.

Motherless, Fatherless and Childless: Solid 4 stars. Apocalyptic Catholic trilogy. Novelized exploration of the culture of death in full flower. I read these towards the end of the summer once it seemed the Church was in full meltdown and found them oddly comforting. Great character development and arresting content.

Only Human: Book 3 of the Themis Files  Not my favorite. High hopes for the final chapter in this trilogy, but book 2 was the standout in this series.

The Real Presence St. Peter Julian Eymard: 5 stars. Captivating spiritual content necessitating bite sized chunks and time for meditation. Plus the Kindle version is practically free right now.

Comfort and Joy by Kristin Hannah (dull and predictable but palatable for pre-Christmas bedtime reading)

Waiting for Christ, a collection of meditations for Advent by Bl. John Henry Newman, great read for this season.

Abba’s Heart by Neal Lozano. 4 stars. I’m a big fan of Lozano’s Unbound, and this book is a nice companion to the relational work that most of us need to do in our connection with God the Father.

In Sinu Jesu: 5 stars. best book I read all year, hands down. Will be re-reading it many times again, I can tell. Order a copy for your pastor ASAP.

Made for This: 5 stars. A must read for all women and anyone who does anything related to birth for a living. (Read: OBs, midwives, doulas, NFP instructors, lactation consultants, RNs, etc. Listen, I am firmly on Team Epidural and this was still such an essential read. Mary knocked it outta the part –  forgot to include this on the initial list because I read it as a physical book, and those are harder to keep track of than my cloud library 😉

Stranger and Sojourners and Eclipse of the Sun: 5 stars apiece. I re-read at least a couple Michael O’Brien books every year. I glean something new from his fiction each time I revisit it; I read once that he writes his first draft in front of the Blessed Sacrament, and it makes total sense when you sink into the depth of his prose.

The Smoke of Satan: 4 stars. Great, fast read. Was surprisingly balanced and level and gave lots of backstory about the present situation in the Church hierarchy. Docking it a star for having a clickbait title that will probably put a lot of people off from reading it. Highly recommend.

The Grace of Enough: 4 stars. I love reading books written by people I know – a solid read that delved into the necessity and beauty of creating an intentional family culture and taking the path of rejecting materialism in our extremely materialistic culture.

China Rich Girlfriend + Rich People Problems: 3.5 stars a piece. (books 2 and 3 of the Crazy Rich Asians trilogy – I saw the HILARIOUS movie in theaters so never read the book.) I like these books a lot; they were entertaining, fast paced, and really fun to read. There was a good amount of sexual content and infidelity and some mild cursing, but it wasn’t graphic, you know? I wish modern (well, most modern) fiction wasn’t so hypersexualized. It’s not crucial to the plot and it ends up being distracting and embarrassing and keeping me from finishing and/or recommending a lot of books. This one really was on the tamer side, but it was more quantity over quality, and just had general themes of immorality and secularism.

Leota’s Garden: 3 stars. Guys, I went on a really embarrassing Francine Rivers kick this past year and read basically everything she’s ever written. Her “Mark of the Lion” trilogy is far and away her best work, and gets a solid 5 stars and will probably be worth re-reading in the future. Her other books, like this one, are uplifting, entertaining, captivating, and good. Not great, by any stretch of the imagination, but good. Think Hallmark movies, but more moral. And almost as saccharine in moments. Not all her books are sugary sweet, but this one was.

Her Mother’s Hope + Her Daughter’s Dream: 5 stars. Some disturbing content dealing with child abuse in the first book, but a really enjoyable and historically captivating set of books about the complications of mother daughter relationships. Squeaky clean but not saccharine.

People of the Second Chance: 3 stars? 2.5 maybe. I’m putting this one in the same category as GWYF (though Goff’s theology is vastly superior to Hollis’), and books like Present Over Perfect. I don’t really get this entire genre, so maybe it’s me and not them? It had a good heart, but it was written at like a 6th grade level and sounded more bloggy than a blog, if that makes sense?

Pachinko: 4.5 stars. Guys I LOVED this book, but there was sexual content for sure. Not graphic and sort of matter of factly written, if that makes sense? Such a richly textured and fascinating novel.

Mark of the Lion trilogy: A voice in the wind (5 stars) An echo in the darkness (4 stars) As sure as the dawn (4 stars) I absolutely adored these books, but especially the first one. A fascinating and inspiring historically inspired read of early Christianity with beautifully developed characters.

Codependent No More: LOL. 3.5 stars? I honestly don’t remember much of this one. A friend told me “everyone needs to read this book” and so I did, and she was probably right. She also confessed that telling someone they needed to read it was in and of itself codependent behavior.

The Four Tendencies: 3.5 stars. I’m a bit of a Gretchen Rubin junkie. This was neither her best nor worst work. I can’t remember what, specifically, wasn’t great about it, but it hasn’t stuck with me the way The Happiness Project did.

Reading People: 3 stars, fairly meh. I’ve read a lot of books about temperaments and personality theories, so there was nothing in here that was new information to me. (Skipped the Enneagram chapter bc I’m pretty skeptical that stuff jives with Christianity.)

What We Were Promised : 3.5 stars. Interesting and engaging read but unremarkable characters. I struggled to remember what this one was about.

I’ll Be Your Blue Sky: 4 stars. Compelling and occasionally difficult subject matter. I really like Marisa de los Santos’ writing.

One Beautiful Dream: 5 stars. Loved this book. A must read for pretty much everybody, not just moms.

Crossing to Safety: 5 stars. My first foray with Wallace Stanger, it won’t be my last.

The Spender’s Guide to Debt Free Living: I honestly don’t remember this one so I’m going to assume it was a solid 2.5 stars.

The Drama of the Gifted Child: 2.5 stars. Really interesting for the first 60% (sorry, I read mostly on Kindle) and then it got vv weird and Freudian.

The Widows of Malabar Hill: 5 stars. I love India and books about India, and especially books about women in India. Clever writing and a surprising plot twist.

Goodbye, Vitamin: 3 stars. A bittersweet (mostly bitter) memoir-esque retelling of an adult child’s coping with a parent’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis and the relational fallout from the disease progression and the brutal honesty it can bring.

The Last Sin Eater: Another Francine Rivers situation. 4 stars.

The Atonement Child: and another. 3.5 stars.

The Masterpiece: and yet another. 3.5 stars.

Educated: A Memoir: 4 stars. Really disturbing and really captivating.

Finish:Give Yourself the Gift of Done: 4 stars. I listened to Jon Acuff on the Dave Ramsey show back when I had a commute, and I like the guy. This was a good reminder that it’s the little daily habits which add up to big wins.

Anxious for Nothing 3.5 stars. I don’t think I’d ever read an adult Max Lucado book. It was decent. A good little primer for combating anxiety with Biblical wisdom, not in a “think yourself well” vein, but in a truly helpful application of Scripture to daily life.

Adrenal Fatigue: 3 stars. Read like a very long Web MD article.

The Adrenal Thyroid Revolution: Slightly less WebMD-ish.

The Adrenal Reset diet: 3 stars. (LOLOL) turns out having a fifth baby in 6 years will make you vv tired. Also, some hormone stuff that changing up my diet to very low sugar/high fat/low processed foods has helped tremendously with fatigue.

Girl, Wash Your Face: 1.5 stars. I can’t handle the popularity of this book. It was everything self referential and disappointing about millenials with no redeeming qualities that I could discern except for, I guess, her massive Instagram following? Think banal health and wealth gospel + some Christianity flavored seasoning sprinkled on top to get on the right book club lists.

The Scarlet Thread: 4 stars. Another Franny title. I enjoyed the way she toggled between frontier days and modern time (well, the ninetes) with this title.

Lineage of Grace Series: Second to lasts dance with Francine. 4 stars for creativity with biblical content without being offensive. Definitely has helped me read the stories of the Old Testament – particularly the female protagonists – with new eyes.

Sons of Encouragement series: ditto, but featuring men of Old Testament.

The Hideaway: 2.5 stars. For as long as I had to wait on my library’s digital hold list, I expected this book to be better than a mediocre Hallmark movie. Alas, it was not.

Meet the Frugalwoods: 4 stars. Enjoy their blog and found this read pleasantly comprehensive of all her writing there without being overly repetitive. I’m never going to give up living in the suburbs or living with electric heat, but I still find their frugality fascinating and inspiring. Worth the read.

The Perfect You: 2 stars. I didn’t love this book because just as I was getting into it, it become a sort of personality inventory/scoring device and as I was reading on a Kindle, I was not about to start filling it out.

Flyaway: Kristin Hannah, but I literally remember nothing. So, 2 stars for that?

Night Road: I like Kristin Hannah but I don’t think I like like her like so many people do. This novel was darker but not unbearably so. About partying teenagers and the life-altering consequences of youthful misjudgement.

Distant Shores: 3 stars. And another Kristin Hannah title that I don’t remember much about.

Kisses from Katie: 5 stars. It will change your life.

Daring to Hope: 4 stars. The follow up to Kisses from Katie. It wasn’t as authentic or compelling or convicting to me, for whatever reason. Still a good read.

Gilead: 4.5 stars. Luminous prose and an unexpected perspective was employed by the writer. I was shocked to discover that this book was written not 100 years ago, but is actually rather contemporary.

Living Your Strengths: 3 stars. Not life changing or anything, the way I found the Highly Sensitive Person or the Temperament God Gave You to be. Just another personality indicator/type predictor.

A Year of Less: 2.5 stars. I love budget memoirs and I cannot lie. This one was okay. Also she lives alone, so being frugal is just not that impressive to me in those circumstances.

A Spender’s Guide to Debt Free Living: 3 stars. Can you tell I go on topical benders, too?

Small Admissions: 3 stars. Moderately entertaining, especially her descriptions of the terrible parents of the prep school babies she manages.

My Life in France: 4 stars. Julia Child was fascinating and before her time, though her writing drags in places.

Dark Matter: 5 stars. I do not love physics, but gosh did I love this book. Read it, you won’t be sorry.

Leia, Princess of Alderaan. 4 stars. I loved this Star Wars fan fic, and my 13 year old self won’t let my 36 year old self pretend otherwise.

Joy to the World3.5 stars. A new-t0-me Scott Hahn title. I’ve read most of his work and had him as a teacher for several years, so there was nothing new here for me, but still a concise and beautiful little book, especially during the Christmas season.

Chestnut Street 3.5  stars. Some sexuality and anti Catholicism. I went on a real tear with this author for the next couple weeks, as evidenced by:

The Return Journey: 3 stars. Did I mention when I “discover” a new to me author, I binge on them? For example:

Minding Frankie: 3 stars. Yep.

A Week in Winter: 3 stars. Yep again.

A Few of the Girls: 3 stars. At this point It was safe to say that I was on a serious Irish chick lit kick. This particular title collection of moderately entertaining short stories with a decidedly anti Catholic bent (written in Ireland in the nineties so I totally get that.)

Circle of Friends: 2.5 stars for moral relativism and being depressing as hell, and for starting me down the road of earnestly questioning the wisdom of continuing to read Miss Binchy.

Tara Road: 3.5 stars. I finally quit Maeve after this one (don’t you just love that name though?) when I admitted to myself that her virulent anti Catholicism and secular sexual morality was affecting my non-Teflon soul. I know some people say they can read anything and let the bad stuff just slide off their backs, but I’m not one of those people. I can’t handle steamy, suggestive and overly graphic sex scenes and I can’t stomach the reality-defying moral relativism of the bulk of modern pop fiction.

The Comfort Food Diaries: I honestly don’t remember this one, so I’m giving it 2.5 stars for being unremarkable. My bff is very into food memoirs, which I totally get, but they usually involve tortured childhoods and resultant adult trauma – at least the ones I’ve read – which kind of stresses me out as a highly sensitive person with tons of little kids at home.

L’appart: I love travel/living abroad memoirs, and this one is definitely that. The author is a little vulgar and a pretty negative guy, but it’s still a good read and gave me some pangs of panic as I thought back to anything home improvement related during our year in Rome.

A Million Junes: 3.5 stars. Moderately well written YA lit.

The Garden of Small Beginnings: 3 stars. Cute, but kind of dull and unremarkable.

Little Fires Everywhere: 3 stars, disappointing treatment of teen pregnancy and abortion that could have been such a great opportunity to deviate from the typical/predictable Planned Parenthood storyline, especially given the character development in this book.

The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down: 5 stars. A completely fascinating exploration of the intersection between different cultures, faiths, and medical science.

Currently reading: Alone Time, This Will Only Hurt a Little (had to bail on this one last night, but I’m SO glad I happened upon a transformative memory she has of JPII before I did. I really like this book, but it’s very, very graphic in parts and I just couldn’t hang), Dopesick, and The Lido.

Abandoned list: either they were boring, trashy, poorly written, depressing, wrong book at the wrong time, or just wildly off the mark for me in some other way. Recording them for posterity’s sake in case I want to revisit a future title – I’m looking at you, Wendell Berry and Julian Fellows

A Quiet Life in the Country, Belgravia, Becoming Mrs. Lewis, Rich Mom, Smart Mom, This is How it Always is, Far from the Tree, Bootstrapper, The Well Educated Mind, The Red Tent, Elinor Oliphant, The Betrothed, Beauty in the World, The Dictator Pope, The Glass Castle, Jaybar Crow, Names for the Sea, Number One Chinese Restaurant, I Feel Bad About my Neck, Under the Volcano, Tell Me Three Things, Becoming Mrs. Lewis, Start with Why

Whew, that’s a lot of books! How do I achieve these numbers? I’ve found the secret to success is as follows: bring my Kindle everywhere, cut out social media, don’t watch tv (except the occasional football game and medicinal Hallmark movies) and commit to having really no other hobbies. For example, I’ve struggled mightily to get into podcasts because, well, I’d rather be reading. So I read. Go with what works, I guess.

I also recommend having a bunch of kids and then using a solid hour + of solitary reading each night after bedtime to recover from your day with them.

Hope you find a gem to carry you through the rest of Christmas break, cheers!