Saturday, June 27, 2009
But seriously, does the phrase "Green Sex" do a number on your psyche? Make your stomach feel a little... off?
But I haven't thought of a better name for it yet, and who am I to rewrite Janet Smith's pith? (She dropped the phrase on a friendly Boulder, CO crowd this past spring during an on-campus rendition of her famed "Contraception: Why Not?")
So "green sex" it is.
Some food for thought:
Billions of dollars are spent on the research, development, production, advertisement, packaging and distribution of contraceptives - from pill packs to condoms, and everything in between.
Our waterways are becoming saturated with astronomical levels of estrogen, decimating animal populations in the surrounding ecosystems. (Case in point: Boulder Creek - yeah, this town gets a lot of weird press - is now home to a bizarre, feminized and mutated kind of transgendered trout)
And all the while, we're being told in firm, sensible tones: do your part. We only have one earth. Switch to high efficiency lightbulbs...
But would anyone consider making the switch from synthetic hormonal contraceptives to something a little, well, greener? Something with zero impact on the environment and a significantly positive effect on the sociological state of affairs*?
More on this later. But it sure gets you thinking...
*For a detailed explanation of NFP see CCLI.org.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
During yesterday's hellish commute home, (golf-ball sized hail, multiple traffic accidents, 70 minutes to go 21 miles) I found myself with an unexpected chunk of time in the car, and tuned in to a local and wildly popular "drive at 5" radio program. The topic of the hour was basically whether or not parents have the "right" to spy on their children via the monitoring of Internet usage.
I had never heard tell of such thing as a keystroke monitor, but I was intrigued. The Djs, feigning outrage, were incensed by the letter from a listener claiming that "her husband had gone off the deep end" by wanting to install a GPS device in their 16 year-old daughter's car; the couple had already installed a "keystroke monitor" on the daughter's laptop, as a precautionary measure to ensure safety online.
The Djs were furious over this implied "violation" of the teen's privacy, and do they turned the question over to their audience: should you or shouldn't you "spy" on your kids online?
Yes, yes, YES. For the love of all that is good and holy, SPY ON YOUR KIDS - become involved in their lives and watch their Internet usage like a you're monitoring for the freaking CIA!
I called in, reacting instinctively with the above answer, and was put on the air almost immediately. It went something like this:
Dj Slacker: (real name, I swear) Jenny in Denver?
Me: Yyiiii! (the desired response, a mixture of 'yes' and 'hi')
Dj: So, to spy or not to spy? Do you watch your kid's every move online?
Me: hell YES. It's your fundamental role as a parent to guard, nurture and steward your child to responsible adulthood. The Internet is a SUPER sketchy place, and parents have an obligation to protect their children from nefarious content. Plus, let's be honest, who's footing the bill for the Internet usage? Who bought the computer? It's unlikely that your teen did so on his or her own initiative, but even if they had.... it's your freaking job. You are a parent.
Dj: Wtf! But kids are just starting to have adult thoughts, just starting to have those really twisted sexual responses and experiences... you'd want mom and dad to know every thought you had in a chat room? Every post you "Twittered" to the world? Are you seriously telling us that if you were having a convo with Suzie in homeroom about how hot so-and-so is and what you'd want to do with his body and whether you'd give him oral sex... you'd want your mom and dad to hear about it?!
Me: Well, that conversation would not have happened. And if it had... and mom or dad had overheard, hopefully this would have been a wake up call to intervention, and indication that maybe - just maybe - they had missed out on a few other CRUCIAL conversations with me around age 10 or 11...
The exchange continued for about a minute longer, during which I was confronted with the comparison between sneaking a peek at your daughter's diary and breaking into her Facebook account to see what she and her friends had been up to online. Or perhaps even - gasp - reading over her shoulder when she's in a chat room, violating her privacy....
When I was in high school, all those ancient years gone by, it wasn't' common practice to publish one's delinquent sexual exploits via IM, Twitter, Facebook... or even good 'ol email. Call me crazy, but I guess my friends and I realized a couple of things:
1. We were not reality tv stars. In fact, reality tv was still in its infancy... and the viewing of such was still comparable to the experience of not being able to turn one's head away from an accident scene.
2. Every thought/feeling/impulse of the adolescent mind does not demand immediate action and/or publication. In fact, it's often quite the contrary...and the practice of vomiting emotional and sexual impulses onto the world wide web is poisoning our entire culture...and condemning a sizable portion of my generation into a reactionary "feelings-based" existence of permanent adolescence.
And that sucks.
3. We were the children, they were the parents. Sure, it rubbed me the wrong way... frequently. But I was not in possession of sovereign rights which took precedence over their divinely issued charge to PARENT me. Even in my most rebellious and angst-ridden adolescent days, I still recognized that if I wanted to live under their roof... it was their way or the highway. (And yes, of course I still snuck out, disobeyed... and got caught (and thank God for that.)
So parents, if you're reading, if you're wondering how involved is "too involved" where your children's forays into cyberspace are concerned... the answer is most vehemently: NO SUCH THING.
You cannot overdo it in this area. Your child does NOT need/deserve/have a fundamental right to a personal computer in their bedroom, or Internet access on their phone. This is stupid, and it is dangerous... and you are the only ones who can tell them so and enforce it with any real authority.
This point was driven home with profundity by the last caller on the show, a mom of three girls who had "never spied on any of her kids" until her oldest was 14 years old... and the vice principal called home to summon her to the office for a conversation about the girl's cell phone, which had fallen out of her backpack in the lunchroom. The mother replied in confusion: "my daughter doesn't have her own cell phone."
It turns out, the phone in question - indeed having fallen from her daughter's bag - was full of saved text messages of a particularly graphic nature, and that the young freshman had been making plans to meet up with "Jake" over the summer which she was to spend at her father's house in Florida. "Jake" was 18, and he was going to drive from Texas to Florida to meet her in person.
"Jake" turned out to be "William" - a 39 year old pedophile who had "met" her daughter in a chat room on Yahoo, and had subsequently purchased and sent her a special phone to facilitate their communication.
The stunned daughter agreed to participate in an FBI sting op, and "Jake" is now serving a substantial prison sentence.
End of call.
Djs Slacker and Steve: (in unison) SPY ON YOUR KIDS. SPY ON THEM EVERY FREAKING CHANCE YOU GET.
End of segment
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Thanks to my faithful readers, and to my newer readers too! I promise that the quality of content will exponentially increase as the frequency decreases... :)
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
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Monday, June 1, 2009
The death of pro-abortion activist and late-term (read: 8 1/2 months pregnant) abortionist Dr. George Tiller is a major blow to the pro-life movement, undercutting the fundamental principle upon which we operate: the fundamental, inalienable right to life of every human person. This includes those of us who live on this side of the womb, and those of us who dwell temporarily within it.
Dr. Tiller, for all his monstrous crimes against humanity at large and the tens of thousands of individual acts of violence perpetrated against individual persons in his four-decade career in infanticide, was a human being. His life, therefore, had value.
Not because of his "accomplishments" (though some on the pro-abort side of the aisle would seek to deify him postmortem for such); not because of his social status; his race; his gender...
None of these qualities alone justify the possession of human rights. In fact, the collective cumulative value of all of a person's qualities and qualifications still does not merit the fundamental right to exist, to live and move and have our being.
Only the Creator can inform the value of the created. Having come from nothing, as some would claim, perhaps it's easy enough to discount the immense value of a human soul. But with the knowledge that each individual person is an unrepeatable and completely unique act of love... comes the responsibility, indeed the obligation to bow one's knee in profound respect of human life. Of every human life.
Tiller will be championed as a hero for the pro-abortion cause, held up as glorified as a martyr by those who favor a subjective method of assessment of human value on a case-by-case basis. His death, tragic and violent, will be the ironic catalyst by which new legislation is promoted and passed opening wide the doors for countless additional acts of violence and tragedy.
I heard it best summarized yesterday afternoon in the following words, issued by my future husband in lamentation over Tiller's murder:
"It's such violent act, to enter a sacred place [the sanctuary of Tiller's church] and to blatantly defy one of God's commandments by destroying human life."
It is, I agreed. And, shaking my head, I pointed out to my fiancee that his words, quoted above, are a terribly apt description of abortion itself.
President Barack Obama said he was "shocked and outraged" by the murder. "However profound our differences as Americans over difficult issues such as abortion, they cannot be resolved by heinous acts of violence," he said.
Let us pray he takes to heart the profound truth and wisdom of his own words:
our differences cannot be resolved by heinous acts of violence.
Either within the womb or without.
God have mercy.