I am quite content with being invisible. In fact, I wouldn't mind remaining invisible to 99% of the world's population, at least as far as sexual attraction goes. I'm not saying I desire unattractiveness, nor do I relish the prospect of inspiring revulsion in the opposite sex. I'm simply expressing my contentedness with going incognito, at least in the area of physical provocation in dress. I really don't mind that when I'm walking into a gas station, across a parking lot in the mall, or through a hallway at school, most people (read: men) don't give me a second glance unless we actually know each other (imagine that.)
I'm revealing this little bit of information partially as a PSA and partially to serve as my own personal edification, as it is a counter-culteral move (to say the least) to refute and to overtly reject the notion of sexual approval and encouragement of physical attractiveness based on the perceived or actual approval of the opposite sex. The bottom line is this: while I don't relish the idea of living into bachelorettehood and watching the best years of my life pass me by while I "waste the pretty", I do see a certain advantage over the ups and downs that accompany the alternative arrangement of cycles of seduction and attraction, followed almost inevitably by boredom and betrayal. I don't mean to suggest that immodesty in action and dress yield an inevitable failure in romantic relationships; I only mean to say that no woman or man who sets out to love from a purity of heart and a nobility of intention will ever, ultimately, come up short.
By pulling our shirts up and our skirts down, by focusing the attention of our peers on our brains rather than our breasts, we're really doing everyone a favor in the long run by circumventing any confusion due to false advertising. If you're looking for love, don't advertise yourself for a one-night stand. If you're looking for a marriage partner, don't act or dress the part of a prostitute. And you know what? The more women and men who put their foot firmly down in refutation of the insidious uncovering of the feminine mystique and the female form, the further we advance in a truly integrated respect and reverence for human sexuality as a whole. It's easy to devalue what is commonplace; it's rarity that inspires real reverence, and scarcity that drives a man to true appreciation for the gifts he's been given.